Monday, February 27, 2012
Sarah lights up the room with her smile - and has tremendous drama with her hissy fits. Jenny has a slow burn of complaining and whining all day - but is **generally** good natured and compliant (see below for exception!). We are enjoying both girls, and they seem to be happy with "where they've landed." We took them to Church for the second time this Sunday. Jenny was NOT happy to have to wear a dress. I translated that she could pick her clothes for home, but Mom (and the school) dictated what she wore to Church and school.
Then we had our first real issue with Jenny. After many incidents of laughing and playing during prayer time (all of 5 minutes), I asked our guide to explain to her to be quiet while Rachel and I prayed in China. (all of 2 minutes) We then explained again several times and she was mostly quiet. She's gotten defiant again and talked over us a couple of times at home - but this morning at Church she brought Sarah into the mix, and after several warnings, continued to laugh and make fun of everyone praying - including talking out loud while the preacher prayed. We had a Google translate lecture after lunch - where I told her how disappointed I was with her behavior. Her consequence was early to bed while the others stayed up late. Worked well for her 5:45 am wake up and first day of school.
I explained that she can have her own beliefs - but she may NOT mock others in theirs. I would not go into a Buddhist Temple and disturb worship - regardless of my opinions about the religion. I expect the same respect here for our family traditions. It's all about respecting parents and others - not something she's been willing to learn so far. (includes talking over others, etc.)
So ends our first saga. She knows now that she goes to bed early when she's disrespectful towards others. We'll see what choices she makes in the future. I've blogged this to help other parents that may experience this - and would love to hear the experiences of other Christian adoptive parents. Blessings, Kim