Homeschooling Odds and Ends

I remember when I first started homeschooling that January was a difficult time.  It was HARD to push on and the time I most often thought of throwing in the towel.  The homeschooling support group usually had some inspirational speaker come to town and give a presentation this time of year, and it motivated me enough to continue on, and reminded me why I began this lifestyle in the first place:  to lay the foundation of Jesus Christ in my children's education.

I was often plagued by doubts and fears, guilt and exhaustion, and I was constantly comparing myself (and my children) to others.  My first two kids loved homeschooling - except on the days when I injected those emotional worries into our daily routine by over scheduling, changing or second guessing curriculum, and complaining about what a sacrifice I was making compared to "most other moms."

I no longer experience this in January - and spent some time trying to figure out what has changed.  Time gives perspective, but most of all - adoption came into our lives.  And that gives a perspective all of its own as to what is important in life.  Here are the things I've learned.

The practical stuff:  My college guys are doing well in school -incredibly well with time management (they also work a good many hours a week at a grocery store), with deadlines and tracking assignments, and surprisingly with writing - the subject in which I felt the most lacking.  The things I taught best were the things that interested them the least, and their interest and aptitude in other subjects made up for the places where I was weak.  My lack of deadlines and in some cases testing did not interfere with their ability to meet deadlines and do well on tests.  Teaching study skills: flashcards, discussion, and note taking (BJU Press Writing and Grammar) paid dividends.

 The use of BJU Press video and online teachers worked great for math preparation, writing, and other, and basic labs in science prepared them well.   Their lack of interest in the "great books of fiction" did not cripple them, but the few I forced them to read left great impressions.  Movies like "A Tale of Two Cities," made up for the wordy style of authors like Dickens, and our BJU Press Literature classes helped them understand the world views of many skilled but morally skewed writers.  They recognize propaganda - both hostile and friendly. YWAM missionary biographies - were encouraging in their faith - and some of our favorite reads.

They were able to pursue their academic and musical interests without the daily teen angst and pop culture onslaught that many kids experience.  They had time in their day to daydream and imagine, create and reflect.  Not always stuff I liked, but free of the noise and distraction of treadmill lives.  They remember everything I discussed with them - even when it seemed like they weren't paying attention.  They really appreciated the Spiritual guidance and wisdom of their BJU Press video teachers and remember much of it today.

Mrs. Vick

History was best learned through discussion of text and correlating video images or historical fiction.  (They'll never forget the filmed and brutal verbal attack against a Chinese college professor by ignorant peasants (during the Cultural Revolution) or the haunting images of holocaust victims.) We didn't always watch the entire documentary - but just a few images brought the text to life.  Fiction movies worked well, too.

http://www.learningwiththemovies.com/page8.html

Service projects were best done when you were face to face with the recipients - whether locally or globally.

Adoption perspective:  I worked so hard, and waited and prayed so long for my adopted children, that I can't imagine taking homeschooling for granted anymore.  I missed so much of their lives already!  I don't judge curricula except by Christian content.  That is non-negotiable.  My girls are overjoyed to hear about a God who loves them, knows them by name, and calls them "beloved." He makes them a "new creature in Christ - the old is gone, the new is here," and this resonates well because of their sometimes traumatic histories.  Jesus Christ is the foundation of all knowledge.  This is the rock we build on.

I have used public school resources - particularly kindergarten and ESOL. I am thankful for the many Christians in our local system that have made this a friendly place for us. I have learned from the many gifted educators over the years and still reach out for advice and help when needed.  I miss the school librarians and art teachers the most.  I wish we still had Christian based education in small classrooms and schools, but the trend is away from that.  The homeschooling community has become it's own resource, however, with its many gifted teachers who build on the same foundation that we do - Christ.

In conclusion, the challenges haven't changed, but my perspective has, and I don't worry anymore.  When things get ugly, we know tomorrow is another day.  When an aquarium trip would make our lesson more fruitful, we go and know that the rest can wait.  I get lots of video and online help.  When I see the long list of activities and accomplishments of other homeschooling families, it inspires me - but I know I can't do it all.  I know that I must have gifts, too, and that they were handpicked by God for my children's good.  I value the arts more.  I know that God forgives my weaknesses and sins, and prunes and strengthens me for the next day.  I know that what my children become largely depends on their own desires and motivation and mostly upon their willingness to listen to God.  I know that I'm a decent parent and that God makes up for any lack on my part if my children are willing to receive.

Blessings, Kim

Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ.  Galations 1:10